The picture you see here is of my long time friend and once business partner, Kofi, who passed away April 10… just two days before I write this.
As I lay awake last night thinking about this young husband and father of 2 who was so unexpectedly ripped away from us far too early, there were many lovely phrases and metaphors I thought to write about him. Sitting here in the light of day though, none appear.
For some reason here in the daylight his passing feels so much more potent. Perhaps with eyes open one is forced to see the gap left at the loss of a dear friend. A friend whom I talked to most every day for 5 years. An individual whom I looked up to in so many ways I can’t even begin to quantify them.
One of my most vibrant memories was when Kofi was a guest on the Adrift on Purpose podcast, a favor he did for me, no doubt. He was always doing favors for everyone he loved. That was his way.
During our interview, one of his mantras that stayed etched in my mind was “I try to meet people where they’re at”. That was Kofi through and through. He was usually the best and smartest person in the room, but he moved through this world with unparalleled humility, kindness, and patience. He never tried to make anyone be anything they weren’t. He took everyone into his web of love no matter who or what they were.
He was love.
I could never live up to his example, but of course he never expected that. As I watched him construct his best life, my awe of his character grew exponentially. His life was about finding his purpose and he dedicated himself to this quest with such quiet, unabashed self determination that you hardly knew how hard he was fighting to make his life his.
His wife and his children were his life’s prize. Family was more important than anything to him, but throughout his life he didn’t lose himself to the otherness surrounding him. He used that otherness to enhance himself. It was a beautiful process to be present for.
And, present he was… at least in my life. In truth, I have no idea why someone so great stayed in my life, as I only saw myself as lesser than and flawed. But, Kofi? Kofi saw a brilliant light in me which I know I need shine in his memory.
I count myself as one of the luckiest people in the world to have been able to spend so much time to learn from and love this great man and friend. I can’t yet picture my life without him, for it seems one full of darkness and desolation.
When I think of saying these last sentiments to him, all I can picture is his smile warming my face and him saying something to the effect of, “You’re too hard on life, Hubert. It’s not that serious, after-all. Just go after your passions with all your might and have fun in the process. Live hard, love hard, and meet people where they’re at.”
I hear you, Kof, I do.
And, I love you… always.
11 comments on “Dedication”
So very sorry, Lis. I can only hope a small sense of healing follows you through these weeks.
Thanks so much, Joe. I can feel the love from VA <3.
So sorry for your loss Lis.
Sounds like he was an amazing man!
Thanks Beck <3... He really was, the best.
So very sorry…heartbreaking to lose a beautiful being, never quite understanding the purpose of their early departure. They are the chosen, too rare and special to stay in this world? All I can accept is that they have become that pure essence of Divine Love, part of our universe and eternally part of us. His everlasting love is with you ~ Strength
I love these thoughts. Thank you for sharing them along with your love and support. Miss you ❤️❤️
I’m do sorry to hear about your beautiful friend sweetheart. It sounds like he filled many hearts on his journey! I love what you’re doing on yours btw! Keep living your dreams and passions! It’s very uplifting to see you doing so! Xoxoxo ?
Thank you much, Kelly! Without support like yours I’m unsure where I’d be. ❤️❤️
So sorry for your loss, Lis. What a beautiful tribute.
Thanks Ann <3 <3